Ashley's Story

She will leave fingerprints all over your heart

2/24/2008

One down and one to go....

They just came in and took out Ash's right chest tube. I am so thankful to have it out because I know it is one step closer to home. I am really ready for her to get the other out, look good, and be on her way back home. Not so much for us and the separation and stuff, although that will be great, but more so because Ash is not happy here. She doesn't smile here, she doesn't laugh here, she doesn't show trust here and she just doesn't want to be here. I don't blame her. She knows that when she is here people come in and hurt her. She doesn't know that they are helping her, just that it hurts.

We love 99% of the people here, but there are some I could just do without. The Dr. who came to take at her chest tube stood there and lied to my face, and I don't much care for that. He told me that this would cause absolutely no pain. I could see is nose growing. He told me she won't feel a thing and that he would not even have to touch where the tube was exiting. Growing some more. He said if she cries it is not because it is hurting. How stupid does this man think I am. I am glad it came out, I just know I could have done a much better job of getting it out. Some people should not be Dr.'s and this guy is one. Sorry to vent because most here are wonderful, but not all. Just tell me the truth, it is going to hurt her and she will cry but I will do it as quickly as I can. Tell me the truth and I will respect you. I am ready to get her out, get her home were she will be cared for with the gentleness of a family who loves her.

Thanks for all your prayers, sorry for the negative tone of this post, I better stop now before I say something really ugly.

DAVE

22 Comments:

At 2:59 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Go, Dad, Go..if you don't fight for her..who will. We praise God for all the good people that are caring for Ashley, and pray for the insensitive ones. We continue to pray for all of you and thankful you can be there to comfort her. Lifting you up in central Il

 
At 3:09 PM , Blogger Gretchen said...

Dave, I'm sorry about that doc and his poor care of Ashley and you. I know that 99% of the people there are awesome, but when you're with the 1%, it is 100% of the time.

Continuing to pray for your sweet family.

 
At 3:17 PM , Anonymous Lisa said...

Yeah for the vent being out, i'm so sorry they hurt Miss Ashley, truth sometimes make the pain just a bit easier to bear. We never ever want our children to hurt and all of us would gladly take our baby's pain anytime. The doctor should not have so insensitive shame on him. We are still praying for comfort and peace and speed healing.

 
At 3:40 PM , Blogger Sun said...

AMEN! Just tell me that it will hurt - we have had some REALLY bad experiences with that - UGH!!

I am SO glad Ashley is one more step closer - GO ASH GO! We are still praying - who knows you may be coming back next weekend to bring your girls home - Praise Him! Sunshine

 
At 3:58 PM , Anonymous Heidi in Wis said...

There is A LOT to be said of a good bedside manner. Most dr.'s think because they are dr.s they are more inteligent than 'normal' people. They are not smarter just more 'educated' in areas..... We love to hear that pickle princess is doing better. :) cant wait till she is home either - we love the smiling pictures of your family..

 
At 4:04 PM , Blogger Julie said...

I'm so glad the tube is out, but sorry that some people don't take every precaution to avoid causing a child pain. Poor baby! I hope that she is feeling better with it out, and I wish for you to have the other 99% taking care of Ashley for the rest of her stay. I've enjoyed your humor throughout the weekend--you are a really funny man. It is clear that you are an amazing Daddy, as well. We're all getting a glimpse of what Trish means when she talks so fondly of you. I mean, laying aside your manhood to make this this little baby girl feel like a princess in all her pink attire. Don't know many guys who would be willing to do that. God bless the rest of time with Ashley this weekend.

 
At 4:12 PM , Blogger Priscilla said...

Ouch! Poor Ash...glad that is behind her. The doc should have been straight with you.

At least it's over, and I pray you have a different doc when it's time to remove the other one!!

 
At 4:19 PM , Blogger Keri Ann said...

I don't blame you a bit for being angry at such a "professional!" Makes me angry, too! But I'm so glad that this hurdle has been jumped...even with the yucky doctor doing it.

Praying for more and more steps to bring her closer and closer to home...and SOON!!!! :-)

 
At 4:44 PM , Blogger Laurie said...

Dave,
It is so good to know that the "princess warrior" has her "Daddy Warrior" there to protect her. Glad that the tube is out and praying for her to be close to going home soon. I am praying that every single little detail is healed this time so she can go home in peace. I can see where she gets the other 50% of her fighting spirit:) Love you guys and don't feel bad about being angry. One more sign of proof that there is no nancy boy here:)!!
Hope the party at home was a smashing success in every way. Let us know.

Laurie in Ca.

 
At 4:47 PM , Blogger Tink said...

Maybe you should tell the doctor next time you see him,Not to lie, maybe he honestly felt it was better for you to think it would not hurt her. He may have in his own way just tried to be kind.. Who knows, but I like to try and think of all the awful things these doctors have to deal with every day, it can not be easy for them either.. But I would say something.
I am so glad Ashley has her tube out. One more step! She will be going home soon!!!
Brightest Blessings to ALL..

 
At 4:47 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so happy to hear that one of her chest tubes is out. Prayfully, the other will follow shortly.

You truly are a wonderful father to this little girl (and Blake & Allie)!

 
At 4:58 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Great News...hope that you are having a wonderful time with Ashley today and soaking in all the minutes you have together before you head back to Texas. Did you get that girl a pedicure and manicure yet? She needs a little pampering before you go! We will be praying for Trish as she travels today and for you tomorrow. As we studied today...isn't it wonderful to serve a God that is ALWAYS FAITHFUL! He has and will continue to be with each one of you!

 
At 5:04 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank goodness one is gone. I'm so sorry for your baby's pain. I hope to read on here that you are all going home soon!

 
At 5:47 PM , Blogger Domestic Goddess said...

I wonder how many chest tubes he's had taken out of himself? My guess is none.
IT FLIPPING HURTS!!!!

 
At 6:12 PM , Anonymous Emma said...

Sending Prayers and (((hugs))). Hoping you don't have to deal with that doc for a long time (or, indeed, ever again!)

 
At 6:29 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am glad the chest tube is out. I'm not sure why Dr.'s feel the need to lie. Maybe they think it will make it easier for us to watch our children go through something if we think they aren't in pain. What they don't realize is that we didn't just fall off the banana tree. We have been around long enough to know the difference. Anyway, I am sorry for the frustration that it caused, but I am truly delighted that Ashley is one step closer to home. Still praying for you all. God Bless...Leigh Ann

 
At 7:00 PM , Blogger Dee Dee said...

I'm so sorry. It must be so hard to see your baby hurt, over and over. And for even one doctor to be unfeeling about it. Makes you wonder what he's been through....
Keep up the good work. So excited and thankful to see progress!
Thank you, Lord!!!

 
At 7:09 PM , Blogger The Lenda's said...

Dave thanks for so much for the fun updates. Glad you were able to have good weekend with Ash while Trish celebrated Allie's birthday. Praying soon your little one will be home where she won't be poked and prodded as frequently.
Praying for a safe trip back for Trish tonight and for you tomorrow am.
Rachel in PA

 
At 8:16 PM , Blogger Sarah's In the Midst of It said...

I'm so glad to see that one of the tubes is out! I'm praying the second one will follow closely behind it. Thanks for updating while Trish is at home:)

 
At 9:17 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dave I have been there myself with doctors! I 100% agree with you and this post has brought tears to my eyes for little Ashley's pain and the pain that I know it caused you to have to watch. For that I am very sorry to you both.
I am praying even harder now for little Ashley to get home SOON!...not sure how much harder I can pray than I already have been...but I'm certainly going to give it a whirl! She truly does need to be where she can be with family....and the rest of the family needs to be with her! She will be soon I have no doubt! She is one fighting little pickle!!!!
:o)))
It's unfortunate that there are doctors like that and I have to 100% agree with you ...some should have never got their license...they simply don't deserve it! This is anywhere you go though. There seems to always be that ONE! I think all doctors should be required to take a psychological evaluation and a bedside manner course! WOW, I guess now I'm helping you vent huh? All I can think about is that sweet little baby and all the times I've been through similar situations...OKAY....taking a very deep breath.....
Continued prayers going up for you and your family Dave! We can't wait to see some more pictures of the family together....smiling!
May God continue blessing you all and praying for no more 1% doc's!
~Okla

 
At 9:02 AM , Blogger Dkswife said...

Hey, a doctor who will lie about that will lie about something much worse. You should be wary of the jerk.

I am glad though that she got one tube out!

Many prayer!

Kay

 
At 11:30 AM , Anonymous Tiffany said...

Aw Dave. Sorry you had to deal with a lying doctor. Way to be Ashley's daddy and and protect her from those who only see her as a patient and not a child. Praying for you guys still..and saying a prayer for the doc that maybe God will reveal he needs a new profession *smile*

Blessings!

 

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